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Flatware and Kate Spade Boots

Some of you may have heard of Marie Kondo…a lovely Japanese woman who’s taken the world by storm with her method to de-clutter your life. Now, I’m all for getting rid of stuff, but her method makes my head tilt and go “Hmmm…”

Marie thinks you should hold every item and ask if it gives you “joy” – if it doesn’t, you thank it, and put it in the discard pile. Joy over a pair of pajamas? Now if I stopped to thank every thing I want to toss, I’d be here for 50 years…and how does one actually determine if something gives you joy? My sterling flatware doesn’t give me joy, but there’s no way in hell I’m getting rid of it. 

So, I went in my closet and here’s what I found: a pair of black suede Kate Spade boots I have no recollection of buying, so that gave me great joy. Six pair of black pants, which to me is the perfect number to have. I found $52 in handbags that I went through and designated to donate….again, great joy! Seriously, I did gather a large amount to donate, but thanking each item? No, I was ripping through things hoping I’d find a gold bracelet or something I forgot I had.

Much like the cult of Oprah, women have embraced Marie Kondo with the enthusiasm of teenagers and the latest K-Pop band…they are introducing their children into culling their belongings (a good thing) by holding it and asking if it brings joy, which I personally find weird.

By the way, does this extend to husbands?


  1. Psykosity

    Another great article Mod!
    I don’t think everything you need is necessarily something that should give you joy either, so I go by the “One Year Rule”. If I have not used it, thought about it, listened to it, played it, watched it, worn it, ridden it, read it, shot it through a cannon or eaten it in the last year, out it goes.
    (OK, I don’t wait a whole year to throw out stuff I haven’t eaten, but you get the picture…)

    • Modesty Fiona Blaise
      Modesty Fiona Blaise

      Thank you, Psyk! I usually subscribe to the One Year Rule; however, there are exceptions: I have some books I will never, ever discard. Same with some vinyl – I will hang on to some records until the day I die. I mean, would you get rid of your autographed copy of “We’re All Bozos on This Bus” by Firesign Theater?
      Didn’t think so…

      • Psykosity

        Well, yeah. Music and books are off limits and well kept here. There are a few books and records that completely changed the way I saw the world: “Fear And Loathing In Las Vegas” by Hunter Thompson, “Slaughterhouse Five” by Vonnegut, “Band Of Gypsies” By Jimi Hendrix, ect. ect…
        I agree. Pulling those out to listen to/ read is like sipping fine wine.

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