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Going Gray

I’ve decided to go gray. Yep, you heard right: after 20+ years of hitting the dye pots, I’ve decided to let nature take it’s course. I’m going to be my “true authentic” self, words often used by transsexuals when announcing their transition, but I digress….

I was in my early 40’s before I dyed my hair. That finally happened when a much younger colleague said, with no malice, “You know, you’d look younger if you dyed your hair.” GASP! I was taken aback…and punched her. In the shoulder; not hard. I looked in the mirror closely. Yes, there was more silver in the gold than I thought. So I bit the bullet…and now I’m ready to stop.

 Why stop? There are a number of reasons: the expense, the time, and to me, the most important one.. why not? I’m not fooling anyone, nor do I want to. I am no longer working; everyone near and dear to me knows how old I am, and I think my hair will be healthier in the long run. Besides, my hair color does not define me. (What does is a different story for another day.)
This is not to say I’m without trepidation, I mean, let’s be real. It’s a process. What if I hate it, or worse, what if it really makes me look OLD? I mean, I AM old…older…old-ish. Not withered crone from the fairy tales, but “still rocking skinny jeans and black leather while collecting Social Security” old.
Men get a little gray and they’re “distinguished.” Women aren’t as lucky, but that has changed a bit now, with young women purposely dying their hair shades of silver, white, and gray.  I earned mine the old-fashioned way. And it’s going to look killer…


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    Kelly J Randall

    “I AM old…older…old-ish. Not withered crone from the fairy tales, but “still rocking skinny jeans and black leather while collecting Social Security” old.”

    That one dropped me!

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    George Pal

    “still rocking skinny jeans and black leather while collecting Social Security”


    The picture. Is it you or…

    NO! Don’t tell me. I’ve too many restraining orders already.

    “What does [define me] is a different story for another day.”

    I am sufficiently besotted to desperately want to know.

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    jo blo

    I’ve told my Maryna–also on Gab–that she ought to go au naturel, i.e., silver/gray.
    Listen: I turn 66 next week. I still love the ladies. To me, every time I see a mature woman (my fave) who’s gone natural, I do a double and then a triple take. I love it!
    Full disclosure: I have ALWAYS been particularly attracted to older ladies who I find to be sexier than hell. Now, don’t get the wrong idea. I am in LOVE with Maryna and her only. At long last! Last thought: you look great. Really.

    • Modesty Fiona Blaise
      Modesty Fiona Blaise

      Thank you for taking the time to read and comment, Jo…really appreciate it! And full disclosure: that is NOT me in the photo – just want to be clear on that, lol

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    jo blo

    I forgot to add–I was a blond ’til I turned white/silver around 40 yrs. old when my daughter was born. I never dyed my hair. Ever. I prefer my extinguished…er…DISTINGUISHED look. LOL.

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    Very nice Mrs Mod!! It looks great on you. Distinguished for sure.

    Not to mention yer a hottie !!!

    It’s a pleasure to know , you are beautiful inside and out.

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    Well Hello there Pretty Lady just Popped in to say hello and that I very much enjoyed your blog FYI Gray is in or so ive been told when it comes to my goatee your gorgeous so try not to get an even bigger head Gal.. well im going to go and read some more blogs my email is sent take care and stay safe you Minx Bye

    • Modesty Fiona Blaise
      Modesty Fiona Blaise

      Hey, Jax…thank you for the kind words. FYI, you DO know that’s not me, right? And I appreciate you reading WTF! Thank you!

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    fiona belle!!! glad i checked your page…a new article!!! you’d look great whatever your hair color, so i’m with you!! and oh, oh …. and do skinny ripped jeans!! you’d be even gorgeous’er, LOL!!! i miss you!! see? didn’t i say i’d pop in to say hi, every once in awhile? and i wanna see you in that skinny ripped j, k? i can’t wait!!! haha!! have a great day and week fiona belle. i’ll be visiting you here every now and then. muaahhh!!! 💋💋💋😘😘😘😘😘😘💖💖💖💖😁😁😁😁😁 take care and cheers!!!🥂💐🥂💐🕺🏻💃🏻🕺🏻💃🏻

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